Professional dominatrixes and fetishists open up about foot worship, their favorite shoes, and more.
When it comes to sexual attraction, we all have our own specific things that turn us on. For some, a good sense of humor does the trick, while others are all about physical chemistry. Others still have more specific turn-ons, including feet. This attraction is called a foot fetish, and to answer some common questions about it, Allure spoke with some men who proudly have foot fetishes and professional dominatrixes. They have plenty of interesting things to say about our southern-most appendages, from explaining the whole spectrum of foot fetishes to the reason for all the foot love in the first place.
In our conversation, foot fetishists explain what foot worship is, they talk about their favorite pedicure colors, and dominatrixes talk about what they’ve learned from some of their clients. Even if you’re just interested in cute pedicures, Goddess Aviva, a New York City-based pro-domme, has plenty of foot-care secrets to share. And what better time to learn about all this than on I Love My Feet Day, a real holiday that occurs every year on August 17? Our feet carry us around all day and they deserve all the love they can get, so read on for a celebration of feet like no other.
What does a foot fetish typically entail?
“When someone has a foot fetish it means they sexualize feet to the point they become a strong trigger for arousal. For some, it’s as extreme as there needing to be feet involved in order to experience sexual pleasure or climax,” Goddess Aviva tells Allure. Though it’s not necessarily true for everyone with a foot fetish, she says that some people with foot fetishes need feet to be involved in a sexual experience to achieve sexual gratification. If feet aren’t involved, they simply aren’t interested.
As for what a foot fetish actually entails, she describes it as a spectrum. “On the gentler side, perhaps your partner enjoys kissing or massaging your feet, and on the more extreme side, you have foot-gagging, stinky foot worship, and trampling,” Aviva explains.
What is foot worship?
Kevin, a 45-year-old foot fetishist from California, explains that for some, it’s all about worshipping a woman by paying special attention to her feet. “I absolutely have a foot fetish and love massaging and worshipping women’s feet,” he tells Allure. When asked what his ideal fantasy is, Kevin says, “You’re soaking in my antique clawfoot tub after I’ve drawn a bath for you filled with sea salts and lavender oils, bubble bath, as you drink sparkling champagne.” That doesn’t sound too shabby.
If you find yourself dating someone with a foot fetish, you can likely expect many foot massages in your future. The fetishist may also share an exceptional love for pedicures, which is why pro-dommes such as Aviva put such care into their foot routines, and their efforts do not go unnoticed. “My favorite pedicure color is red or hot pink,” Brent, a 29-year-old from Rhode Island with a foot fetish, tells Allure.
How does a foot fetishist experience submission?
While it’s all about the love for some, for others, foot fetishes are more about being submissive and may involve humiliation. “Not only do I have a foot fetish, but I also have a bondage fetish. I love to be tied up, having no say at all, and having a mistress have her way with me,” Brent explains. Men such as Brent may enjoy being forced to lick and smell feet, ideally ones that are stinky and sweaty.
“There’s something special about forcing someone to massage, lick, kiss, and smell my sweaty feet, while I have their hands tied, a leash on their neck, and there’s no hope for escape,” says Ms. Tomorrow, a professional dominatrix based in Nashville.
Are some foot fetishists intrigued by shoes?
In conjunction with an attraction to feet, many people with foot fetishes are also into shoes, socks, and stockings — anything that wraps around the foot. “I have submissives who are very shoe-oriented. These submissives really get off on tying shoes and heels to their faces, to be immersed in the smell. They will also insert their penis (I mostly work with clients who have penises) into shoes, and use shoes as a masturbatory aid,” Ms. Tomorrow says. She elaborates that she has a few clients who are shoe specific: Some only like heels, others are exclusively turned on by old, dirty boots. A few of her clients prefer clogs, house slippers, ballet flats, or sandals.
Physically being under someone’s feet is as low as you can be, which is a beautiful metaphor for power dynamic.
Shoes aren’t the only wearable item of interest. “There is a wide variety of oddly specific foot fetishists — same can be said for sock fetishists,” Ms. Tomorrow tells Allure. “Socks stuffed into the mouth as a gag, dirty socks to be cleaned, even wearing certain kinds of socks can be a part of sock-focused kink play.”